Lots of us. I only know a small handful of black women brought up this way. (It ended badly each time). Most of us were raised to be (somewhat more than) equal partners (especially if there are children). We expected to earn money, no matter how much our spouses made. We did not expect or want to be infantilized. That is just part of why the overwhelming majority of us vote in our real self interest as adults and never support ignorant rapist, misogynist, felonious bullies.